After four years of fading the Elders finally called on us . It turns out the only reason they stopped by was because I had 'winter' decorations out this past December and they wanted to know if I was now celebrating Christmas ...... I agreed for them to stop by because I wanted to talk to them , but if you don't want a visit then YOU JUST SAY NO !!!
In your case I am sure they just want to encourage you to return to meetings . If you don't want to be bothered then do not give out your phone number #1 and if they stop by unannounced either don't answer the door or just say it is a bad time for you and close the door .
It is all up to you how you want to handle it . You can just say NO THANK YOU .......they are not authority figures in your life anymore . The power they possess is only the power you decide to give them !
I love the way one poster put it years ago ,she said just keep repeating a simple statement until they get it like : No thank you I couldn't think of any reason to meet with you . Or .....I couldn't imagine discusssing my personal life with you .OR.... No there is no need for you to come by for a visit .